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How can I fit in without doing what everyone else does?

 

HOW CAN I FIT IN WITHOUT DOING WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES?

School is hard. It’s not just your imagination. But there are things you can do to make it easier.

It’s completely normal to want to fit in. We all want friends and people to hang out with. And, it’s completely normal to feel different than the people we hang out with.

It’s important to know that it can take a while to make friends or find a group to be part of. It may seem easy for some young people to fit in but remember we don’t know what’s really going on in their lives. Life can be tough for everybody, just in different ways.

Helpful Tips

Here are a few tips for when you feel lonely or like you’re not fitting in:

Think of a time when you felt happy and like you belonged.

Who were you with? Where were you? What were you doing? Once you know what worked before, you can do it again.

Think of a time when you felt alone and like you didn’t fit in.

Who were you with? Where were you? What were you doing? Once you know what didn’t work, you can do it less. For example, if you feel sad every time you get on Snapchat, can you delete your account, limit yourself to 15 minutes a day or make sure you do something afterward that brings you joy?

Figure out if you have a passion, something that you really enjoy doing or that really matters to you.

See if you can connect with other people who feel the same way.

Find trusted adults that support and love you the way you are.

They could be people you go to for information or just to chat.

When to ask for help

Sometimes we feel like we can’t ask for help or like we’ll be judged if we say what’s on our mind. But it’s important to get support and tell trusted adults what’s happening if any of these are true for you:

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Your sadness or loneliness is always there, no matter what you do.

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You only feel relief from your feelings when you do something that is actually hurting you in some way.

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You don’t see the purpose of life.

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You are thinking about suicide or hurting yourself or others.

Who to Ask for Help

  1. If you feel this way, get help. You can talk to a trusted adult, text the word “Help” to 741741 or call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They will be able to talk with you about your feelings and work with you on how to feel better.
  2. There are a lot of places in your city that can help, too. Here is a list of some community resources.

Figuring out who you are, what you enjoy and who you want to be takes time, but it’s worth the wait!

And remember, IT’S OK TO ASK!

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MORE RESOURCES

There are a lot of places in your city that can help, too.
Here is a list of some community resources.

IF THIS IS AN EMERGENCY CALL 911 or GO TO NEAREST EMERGENCY ROOM

For the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline call 1-800-273-8255 or text the word ‘home’ to 741741 for Crisis Text Line.

IF THIS IS AN EMERGENCY CALL 911 or GO TO NEAREST EMERGENCY ROOM

For the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline call 1-800-273-8255 or text the word ‘home’ to 741741 for Crisis Text Line.

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